PERSONALITIES AND RELATIONSHIPS

The Bottom

Not always a person that wishes to be overly dominated just wants to feel someone else is in control at times they need it, more of a role playing than life style, looks for a confident person who will take charge when they want it usually in times they are playing out their sexual fantasies.  

The Top

Very much into role playing and sexual gratification, likes to take control for short periods of time when doing a scene. Not into personal servitude, per say, but into playing the Master or practicing the Dominant side of a fetish. Not into owning or a 24/7 relationship based solely on being the Top. Again, it is a nice way to spice their sexual expression.

A Top and Bottom Relationship

These people are not looking to form a relationship based solely on the Top + bottom aspect. It may be, however, that a relationship that has this as an integral part exists. There is a degree of power exchange, but not for long periods of time and the time spent together is full of role playing and mutual fantasy fulfillment.

The Submissive

Very much into being directed by the Dominant. Wants to give up control for longer periods of time or in more intense ways, is very much into the erotic side of submission and into servicing the Dominant sexually, but is a little more reluctant to give in to the personal servitude. Might be into feeling a 24/7 relationship to one sole person and being collared to show commitment, but not into feeling “owned” per say The relationship is seen as something more than just “kinky sex”; a power exchange takes place.

The Dominant

 Very much into directing the submissive; orders and details are important. Taking control is most certainly a priority and is very much into the erotic side of submission. May not be into being personal servitude, but is most likely interested in being serviced sexually. Might be interested in a 24/7 relationship with one submissive and collaring such to show commitment, but not necessarily into “owning” them. The relationship is seen as something more than just “kinky sex”; a power exchange takes place.

Dominant + Submissive Relationship

Not to be mistaken as master and slave as the submissive is not owned but freely submits for a short period. There is a much more intense power exchange and commitments that are longer periods but these are rare. these relationship are not 24/7 torture periods as the human body can only take so much. The point here is to meet those points and cross them for a short period of pain and humiliation. Most people in this kind of relationship do indeed have a love or caring aspect in it; there is a certain commitment involved emotionally. The relationship can be based solely on the Dominant Submissive aspects because of this. Each gets fulfillment through the giving and fulfillment of orders, attention to details, punishment for wrong doing and sexual control, but not necessarily from being owned or owning.

The Slave

Someone who wants to be owned, this is used as a way of establishing a sense of security which is gained by belonging to someone. Very much into servitude; so much so that they are eager to learn the little things about their owner so that they don’t need to be told something in order to get it done. Certainly into 24/7 relationships and collaring to show ownership, may or may not be open to the erotic or masochist side of submission; their pleasure is mostly derived from servitude.

The Master/Mistress

 Wants to own someone and derives as sense of satisfaction from believing they own someone else completely. These people are very much into personal service from the slave and the personal attention that involves. Not necessarily into giving repetitive orders. Very interested in a 24/7 relationship and collaring to show their ownership of the property although this is a personal trait and not always the case, it is however a common factor. The collar may also be in the form of a marking of some kind. This person may not be inclined to play sadistically, except to punish if that is part of the contract. The pleasure of the relationship comes from owning a person completely and being responsible for them but that is by no means the only pleasures, but it is one of the most common.

Master + Slave Relationship

The focus of this relationship is of ownership, either being owned or owning. A certain pride and a sense of fulfillment are gained from such. Slaves are almost always collared to show that they are property and the relationship is almost always 24/7 and contractual. Aspects of this type of relationship may come into play and often sexual control is a goal, the main pleasure however for many in this type of relationship is from the personal service and attention to detail the slave brings to the relationship. The slave must follow the rules set out in the contract and must worship their Master/Mistress completely. Disobedience is met with punishment either physical or psychological. Few people are secure enough to deal with this sort of relationship and usually choose a vanilla variance of it that suites their needs. This is the hardest of all the relationships to complete fully and requires amazing people to complete it.