CONSIDERATIONS

The Master/slave relationship is a complex one requiring a serious commitment to honest and open communication, and the practice of learned responsibilities for the care and protection of each person's wellbeing, psychological, physical, sexual, social, and emotional health. you can protect both you and your Master's participation through the use of selected safe words (like 'yellow' and 'red') and gestures (such as tight hand holds, wiggling of a limb, or opening of a hand). Don't ever be afraid to use them or think that you are not supposed to - especially if you are in your first experience. Expect to be tested by your Master so that you are made aware of your limitations for your sake and His.

There is a lot to learn, to develop and to discover in this type of lifestyle: its traditions, customs, fashion, speech, etiquette, play, and practices which may include bondage, discipline, punishment, sadism, masochism, guidance, surrender, control, pain, aftercare, sensation, sensuality, sexuality, spiritualism, respect, warmth, passion and love. It is recommended that each person learns as much as they can throughout whatever avenues are available (never being afraid to ask about anything you are even the slightest bit curious or concerned about): similarly interested friends, presenters and experts you get a chance to meet in the 'scene', books and magazines on related subjects including those who are against the lifestyle, groups in your area who offer educational classes, play parties, and conferences, any related fictional books of erotica and fantasy, academic books on theatre, scene play and props, Internet websites and FAQ's (frequently asked questions), first-aid classes, fetish fashion outlets and those who carry leather, bdsm toys and tools of the lifestyle. Failure to learn the proper use of the toys and tools of the lifestyle can result in serious injury - so be careful.

It is recommended that a skilled person in edgeplay (activity, as mentioned in rule #128, requiring extensive knowledge and skill where physical and psychological injury can result if not done properly) and advanced first-aid be present should you be engaged in such activities by your Master.

Each rule involves a multitude of meanings and different styles for unique and personal application. Work with them.

Read each one

Ponder the possibilities

Look seriously at the images they create inside you and allow what you feel from each one to come into full bloom

Get away from them

Then come back and work on them again until you have put together the ones that will become your mindset from which to live by

To seek out the Master you crave to serve and to please and to love, or to become stronger and more committed to the one that you have and with whom to share of yourself through your creative application of them.

Consider these rules a part of, what will become your crash course about the Master/slave relationship and lifestyle, but realize they are not conclusive, nor the only way to enter and to experience it, for there is more to learn then from the rules that are listed here.

Begin slowly and build trust of each other's responsibilities, knowledge and skills towards the level of control and the enslavement you crave. Spend time communicating and negotiating your first few sessions with your Master and especially before you commit yourself to a shared lifestyle. Take the time to experience trial periods of commitment to a Master: a weekend, a week, a month, a few months. Always have time periods where you can drop out of submission, as if a third person, to discuss what is occurring between you and your Master and how to move forward in meeting each other's needs. Know that you can always leave - for no slave should live in a lifestyle out of fear for one's life. The best of Masters will have an open door, unless you, by Him, is seen as one who is no longer wanted as His slave. If that should occur - know that there is always someone else out there who can take His place so that you may be able to find the One who will allow you the opportunity to submit. Know that you can also take a break from submitting to a Master and can do so until you feel ready to submit again. There will always be pleasure to draw from a slave - regardless of your age, your figure or your physical health.

Consider tests for blood and sexually transmitted diseases should you engage in usage where blood, urine and semen will be sexually or orally exchanged.

Engage in your role-play or lifestyle safely using condoms, dental dams, and latex gloves wherever and whenever needed for protection. Your life may depend on these tests and practices. Don't be afraid to speak to your doctor, clinic or hospital about your need for these tests or about the results of your play from which you may suffer - they've seen and heard more than you might imagine. Keep in mind that what you communicate with your doctor is confidential (unless you live in those states where marks on your body may be mistaken for the results of acts of domestic violence), and that the more you can communicate about what you have received - the better of care they will be able to provide you. You do not have to explain exactly why the tests are necessary - just that you and a partner will be engaging in sex where you feel such tests are necessary for your safety.

It is highly recommended that the use of drugs including alcohol not be used during any part of a Master/slave relationship or at play parties where activity requires careful and well thought out planning and execution such as in bondage, being pierced, punished, disciplined, edgeplay, and other such activities. Both partners will need their full faculties to experience these activities safely and without reckless behavior. I would also caution the use of tobacco in such activities.

Keep a journal for yourself to work through what you are feeling as you progress towards and through the relationship you want and are in. Don't be afraid to hear yourself through your writing. Let it flow like the freedom you feel when you are in your slave space. Share only what you wish or what you are allowed. Expect to receive assignments on what you experience so that you both learn what to work on and how to progress. Don't be afraid to share your journal with your Master, but do ask if you can have a private one should you desire it.

Note: During your discussion with your Master you may find that more than half of those you decide are 3's and 4's will turn into 1's, 2's or 5's pending His interpretation and execution of those rules, no matter how you rewrite them or if you decide to eliminate them.  Part of the process is to challenge how well you know you and your Master, and how your state of mind changes in their presence.

Keep in the mind the rules are not in any particular order. This is done on purpose since a slave must be able to adapt her behavior and creative spirit to fit the surprises, changes, and challenges that will occur in the lifestyle she has with her Master.

When you have finished your selection process - read those you chose for 1, 2, 4 and 5, in your kneeling or other position. Read them out loud in the confessional tone about 1-2 times a day until the day comes when you can discuss your choices with your Master, with whom the final decisions will be made and for whom you may be required to display your creative application of those rules chosen.

Remember: you are not required to memorize the rules you have selected, but you will be expected to know of their context when questioned by your Master.  A hesitant response or an incorrect one could get you disciplined in part for not remembering, but more for not staying focused on how you are to behave.  After you are disciplined, the correct and acceptable response in reference to the rule should be told to you so that you will remember it the next time.

Once your discussion with your Master is complete, it is strongly suggested that you, with His permission, read your selections in an acceptable position, nude, at least once a day, for at least 10 days.  Failure to do so without an acceptable cause or reason and you are likely to be punished upon your next meeting with your Master

 You may record the rules you have selected for playback for use any place where you need to hear them.  (I, the author, will allow one such tape per person, not to be sold in any electronic format (i.e.: tape, CD, removable HD, or floppy) in any quantity.)