SO YOU THINK YOU WANT TO BE A SLAVE

I have seen many wannabe slaves come expecting a dream world, which is perfect.  Being a slave can be a wonderful experience. I am going to address issues related to role-play of a slave. These comments are my viewpoints from real-life experiences.

Before you start, there are a few things you need to discover about yourself and what you want.  Do you wish to be in this type relationship?  Perhaps you only wish to be in it during the scenes or would you like it to be 24/7.  There are many ways this activity can be done, but you have to figure out what is right for you.  Secondly, you need to learn to be honest with yourself.  Figure out what you will and will not do, and what is a maybe.  Search inside yourself for what you really want, and when you find it.  Be honest to anyone you talk to about this. Do not agree to something that you know you will not be able accomplish.  Ask yourself some hard questions.  

The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate so you can base your decisions on reality, and not  just dreams and unrealistic fantasies of how it should be. The questions you must ask yourself are many and for some will remove the fun but if you wish to enter this mystical world these questions must be asked and you answers to them truthful and completely understood.

Are you prepared to surrender 100% control of your life to someone else?  Role-playing would mean entering into this relationship that the Master would have the total control.  If you just choose role-playing then once the scene is over, everything returns to normal.  This is how most people deal with their needs.

Do you enjoy heavy metal?  Maybe you love country music. Consider this.  The Master whose collar, you will eventually wear may only like certain types of music that you do not enjoy.  Are you prepared to give up your own choices and only listen to your master’s music?  This type sacrifice can apply to many other things you currently enjoy.  I love any type and my slaves are permitted to listen to their type of music as long as they get assigned tasks and chores done.  Note, I said, "permitted to.” Something as simple as listening to music is a reward.  It is not a given that you will be permitted to enjoy even this little pleasure whenever you wish.  These limitations can apply to many areas of your life such as TV, choices of food or friends, just about anywhere anything!  Is there a certain style of clothes you love?  Certain colors and scents you wear.  If your Master does not approve of them, you may be wearing a very different style with colors you never would have dreamed of wearing.  Your master may lay your clothes out for you.  Are you prepared to abide happily by your masters choices?  If they ask you to wear something very skimpy to some place simple like the grocery store, could you do this without hesitation?  Anytime, should he decide that they want you to wear something else, you must change immediately? Trust me, they will exercise this right. You should learn to ask what the master would like you to wear if going somewhere special.

Are you prepared to make other changes, your hairstyle, length, or color to please your master?  All of these will belong to him once you accept your collar as will everything else that once belonged to you.  You will no longer own anything.  From the time you take your masters collar, everything will be his.  It will no longer be "your" car or "your" clothes, but "your master’s,” on loan to you as he sees fit.  If He should so choose, you will not be permitted to wear clothes at all.  You have a certain way you like to sit or walk.  Your master will decide whether you sit on furniture or on the floor.  They will have the say if you are to cross your legs, or sit with them spread wide-open.  You will have to ask permission to climb into bed.  Most slaves are allowed a cushion on the floor that they do not need permission to sit upon, but very little else.  This will be your master’s choice, not yours.  Remember, you will have given up all rights to make these choices for yourself. You will even need permission to eat at the table with your master.

It has been a long hard day at work.  You get home and want nothing more than to relax in a tub and go to bed early.  Well, you will not be able to.  Being tired, ill, or just in a bad mood does not excuse you from your required tasks.  You are still required to do them: prepare his meal, and go to bed when he tells you to.  Retiring for bed usually occurs at a set time, even if you are not ready to go.  There will not be an "I am too tired or I don’t feel well”: anything of the kind.  Unless your master has excused you from your tasks and chores, you will remain responsible for making sure his needs and wants are filled: no matter what.  It is your job to inform your master of your physical health status.  One of your main jobs will be to take care of and protect your master’s possessions.  You being are the most prized one he owns.  As long as you let your master know how you are feeling, He will make sure that your tasks will be appropriate to your capabilities.

The main part of being a slave is to be of service to your master, and not to be serviced for yourself.  However, being readily available to him at all times is also an unspoken expectation.  The old excuse "not tonight dear, I have a headache" does not work in a master slave relationship.  In order to provide him pleasure, you must also express to him the pleasure of the moment for you as well.  Never make your master feel this is a chore to you: something you would rather not do, but will only because you have to.  If your master tells you to do something, it will not be up to you to question him.  You will be required to respond with no questions asked.  Later (if this is permitted in your relationship), you may ask him for permission to speak on an equal level.  If he gives permission, this will be your opportunity to ask your questions.  However, it is important to ask in a way so as not to question his authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity.

Do you feel being a slave is to be bullied: forced into servitude?  Do you think you could not do this unless you were? Then think again.  Slaves enter into this relationship of their own free will; it is a matter of choice.  You are the one who will decide to give over your power to your master.  You will be doing this, not because you are forced to obey, but because you need to.  Yes, during the course of your relationship, there will be times you will be forced to do something, but it will never be something that goes against who you are.  Your master may feel obeying this command will help you to grow into the best person you can be, or will help you break out of an inhibition you have.

Your self-discipline is very important in this relationship.  Do you tend to put things off until the last possible moment?  You will not be able to do this when you are owned.  There will be chores and tasks your master will assign that he expects to be done in a timely fashion set by him, not by you.  Your master's wants and needs will always be put before your own.  Self-discipline is similar to self-control.  Your ability to follow complete assignments made by your master will be very important. As a slave, you will need to be able to control your own actions well enough to be able to remain within the boundaries set for you by him.  If He says you cannot do something, simply, you cannot.  Doing it anyway and not telling him does not make it right.  In the case of a master/slave relationship, what you do not know can hurt you, as well as the relationship you have worked so hard to build.  Even a simple "white lie" can destroy the trust so necessary to establish this type relationship.

As to wants and needs of your own: do you know the difference between the two?  If not, I strongly recommend you figure them out before entering into servitude.  Sometimes the two are hard to distinguish, but it will become important that you do so. Your Master will ensure all your "needs" are taken care of, but the "wants" will be His to allow or not, as He sees fit.  Needs are the necessities of life that are required in order for us to remain mentally and physically healthy.  They allow us to grow emotionally and spiritually.  If you can survive without something, then it is a want.  Wants are usually given as a reward for good behavior.

In order to be a slave, there are many things that you have to learn and accept being able to adapt yourself to your new lifestyle will be a big advantage.  Your primary purpose in life will be to see to your master’s pleasure (both mentally and physically) in any manner he should desire.  In order to do this, you will have to learn your master well.  Find out what pleases and displeases him.  By this, I do not mean just sexually.  You will learn that sex is but a small part of your relationship. Learn to anticipate his every need and desire without being pushy.  This will include intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other things unique to him.  Remember - physical does not equal sexual.  Physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touch, favorite foods, textures, clothing, and colors as examples.  It will be your job to make sure His physical pleasures are met in every way. Never forget - the most pleasing thing in his environment should be you.

As their slave, you to figure out what will please your master.  He should not have to ask constantly for the basic things - you should have learned them.  If his glass is empty, quietly and unobtrusively refill it.  Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure not your own.  Just because he does not notice and praise you does not mean you are doing it wrong.  Look at his expression, if he looks happy and content, then you have done well, and should bask in his content.  Always remember that you do this for him and not for your own satisfaction.  Your happiness should come from serving him.

Most decisions are out of your hands and in those of your masters.  However, many choices are still left up to you.  Most Masters want a slave who is smart, has a sense of humor, and a will of their own.  There is no pleasure in owning a doormat that just sits or is only there to be walked upon.  He will become bored very fast.  Being you is the best advice I could give, and I have found this to be true for me.

You will find being a slave everything you dreamed of and so much more if you enter this life knowing what to expect.  If you are meant to be in, the lifestyle parts of you that never were complete will then become whole.  In relinquishing control, you can find freedom: freedom to find and be the person you are inside.

Never forget that, one of the most important requirements for existing in this lifestyle is honesty.  Honesty with yourself, you will find that this is not as easy as it sounds.  Once you learn to do this, you will find yourself at peace and able to enter your servitude with clearer mind.  Knowing where you are and where you want to be.  When you accept your master’s collar, you give up all your rights.  Your friends, your life - nothing will remain yours.  Being a slave means giving up so much more than you would if you were only being submissive.  You give up all rights in your life.  Slave is not just a word; it is a way of life, a defined action.  Be well, I hope you enjoy this lifestyle as much as I have, and find everything you are searching for and more.